and can i get a HELL YEAH for the "sierra" filter on IG for magically turning ping-pong-sized red zits into teeny tiny dots?! GOD DAMN, i love technology.
my friend Moon found this article. and she said #3 reminded her so much of me.
and so i read it.
Having kids isn’t (always) the end of the world.
i felt really special that it touched Moon so much. and she's right. i still am totally interesting! i still am cool!
and so i got to thinking...
for some reason, today's women in their 20s are expected to follow a new social norm that requires keeping one's baby fever under wraps. having babies has festered this weird stigma that a woman is giving up. she is a woman who doesn't care about a career. she doesn't want to be successful. she is a piss-poor feminist. she is trading in her brain for a lifetime of housewivery. she is judged by her other 20-something friends, and she should be ashamed for admitting she wants a baby.
that's so stupid.
just like the millions of women before us, we simply want to join the motherhood club. creating a miniature human is a god damned miracle. A MIRACLE YOU GUYS. even more (and i comment about this on a daily basis), is the fact that we women have the capability to singlehandedly sustain the life of our babies through our boobs. OUR. BOOBS. MAKE. FOOD. the best food, in fact, formulated specifically for what our baby needs. it still blows my mind. she came from me. i love my husband so much that we made and brought baby into the world (!!!). this happens to people everywhere, everyday, yes i know. but it's no less incredible. it really is something! there is nothing like staring into the eyes of your baby after she screams in your face for taking her rice cracker away and saying to yourself "GOOD GOD, this child is me. this child is SOOOO ME! holyshit." and the first time that happens will kick a woman in the ass. taking a moment to sit back and really appreciate and process that feeling is a monumental life experience that can only be obtained by becoming a mom. and i know it's not for everybody, but for those of you who are craving a baby deep within the depths of your loins, just say it! open up dialogue about it. with your friends. with your sisters. with your mom. (also you should probably discuss it with your partner). just stop being silent about it. it's okay to want a baby. even though you'll replace drinking AMFs and riding mechanical bulls with 2 a.m. feedings and saying things like "HOW THE FUCK DID YOU GET POOP ALL THE WAY UP THE BACK OF YOUR NECK?!" you'll still be you. you'll still be cool.